6 essays on gaydom, gayness, gay history

I am the Simon Jones of 2004 sj958@yahoo.com who wrote Jews and gays – birds of a feather?  It was very popular and the ideas in it have been percolating ever since. I had hundreds of replies 10 years ago and look forward to more.

I offer here more thoughts on the debate about whether ‘gay’ is a natural order, on whether there IS such a phenomenon in nature, or whether the term ‘homosexual’ is sufficient to describe the phenomenon of males having sex with other males, for whatever reason. Sex is far too complex to slap a artificial label like ‘gay’ on someone to slot him/her into a category which he/she doesn’t want or need. It is enough that we are human beings. The rise of gaylib in the past half century has had profound impact not only in the West, but around the world, and deserves an open, unbiased debate. My hope is to do this here.

There are six essays here:

1/ Gay—a mistake or an adaptation?
2/ Secondary sexual characteristics, pre/capitalist society, and Oedipus
3/ The 19th — 20th c rise of gay movement
4/ Gays, Hollywood and Glamor
5/ Gaylib and Religion
6/ Celibacy and friendship

I look forward to any thoughts of your own.

 

1/ Gay—a mistake or an adaptation?

This is part one of a series looking at the rise of the gay movement and what it means for society and the world at large.

 ‘Gay’ in social life vs homosexuality in nature and society

Simon Jones sj958@yahoo.com

The traditional view about homosexuality is that in most cases it is an aberration, that while it may be an inborn phenomenon in some people, most exclusive homosexuality is a psychological issue, one which could be resolved, or cured if you prefer, by psychotherapy, if the person really wanted and was prepared to make the effort.

Homosexuality is a complex issue, as both pro and con factions will admit. The mind, with its long, slow development, its dependence on choice, its potential for osmotic or unconscious learning, and the unperceived influence of the subconscious on personal choices, makes any comparison of humans with fish, sheep or even baboons in their sexual behavior specious.

Central to the gay experience are the arts, where emotional sensitivity is vital. Whatever it is that turns sheep on has nothing to do with Sleeping Beauty. In Queer Science: The Use and Abuse of Research into Homosexuality, Simon Levay warns that “[a]lthough homosexual behavior is very common in the animal world, it seems to be very uncommon that individual animals have a long-lasting predisposition to engage in such behavior to the exclusion of heterosexual activities. Thus, a homosexual orientation, if one can speak of such thing in animals, seems to be a rarity.” So while nature is interesting and instructive, it does not provide answers to the current dispute over homosexuality in humans, let along the legitimacy of the term ‘gay’.

There are many factors which could derail normal sexual development in a sensitive person—fears based on childish misunderstandings about sex; fear of the opposite sex’s mysterious genitals; an overbearing mother or father; shocking childhood encounters or traumas, such as sexual abuse; even revenge for real or imagined adult wrongdoings of a nonsexual kind. Self-esteem problems are yet another factor, such as fear of impotence, or the belief that one is ugly or undesirable.

Childhood experiences are the most important influence on a person’s character, and bad ones can traumatize the individual for life. In nature, the early experiences are called imprinting, as so starkly shown by the way a gosling follows whichever adult it sees upon first hatching.

So, is it right to ignore the complexity of factors that contribute to a radical divergence from normal sexuality, and tout homosexuality as really no different from heterosexuality? Dubbing homosexuals euphemistically as ‘gay’ (i.e., happy)? Or are some young people being misled down a path they had no need to follow? This is the conservative view.

The conservative acknowledges that there are fleeting attractions during puberty, especially in environments such as a single-sex boarding school or a broken home. Nervousness about the opposite sex and the sexual act and the fact that homosexuality is the easy way out in such contexts can result in a lifetime of homosexuality.

Using the word ‘gay’ to describe homosexuals supports the psychological case. Euphemisms are employed when people wish to avoid awkward subjects; or want to deflect attention; or seek to disguise their meaning, or don’t want to confront the truth about things. All of which issues are psychological at root. The pressure on media to stop referring to homosexuals and use the term ‘gay’ is intense. A google search of ‘gay’ gets 777m hits, while homosexual gets only 44m.

Here I will try to use homosexual for the most part, which I fail to see as disparaging, and use ‘gay’ to mean the contemporary movement to equate homosexual and heterosexual as both equally ‘normal’. I will also use msm to refer to males having sex with males, and sfs for females having sex with females. But gay is so widely used even by the scientific community that it makes more sense when quoting studies to use their terms, which generally means using gay when in fact what is meant is homosexuality.

Some statistics

There are no reliable statistics on life expectancy of gays vs heterosexuals (straights makes better sense than ‘gays’, so I will use it here). A 1997 study in the International Journal of Epidemiology examined how HIV affected the mortality of gay and bisexual men in Vancouver from 1987 to 1992 and found that life expectancy at age 20 among gay and bisexual men in Vancouver was 8 to 21 years shorter. But this was at the height of the AIDS crisis.

Researchers insisted this was not an adequate basis to estimate the true death rate comparison, but did not follow up the study. The new drugs to fight AIDS and the spread of AIDS among straights no doubt levels the mortality rates somewhat (though this sidesteps how straights came to be part of the epidemic in the first place). That said, homophobia is wrong, a direct violation of human rights, for right or left, anti-‘gay’ and ‘gay’.

A 1999 study found that suicide attempts were made by 28% of teenage bisexual/homosexual males (vs 4.2% for heteros), and 20.5% of bisexual/homosexual females (vs 14.5%). In addition, these youth are more likely to report engaging in multiple risk behaviors and initiating risk behaviors at an earlier age than are their peers. Respondents living in high-prejudice communities died of suicide on average at age 37.5, compared to age 55.7 for those living in low-prejudice communities, a difference of 18 years. “Male suicide rates were highest in the 45-64 age-group.” Gays in the stigmatizing communities had a shorter life expectancy by an average of 12 years.

Given the fluidity of the categories and changing mores, there probably never will be good statistics, but these grim figures are not optimistic. Statistics comparing homophobic communities to more neutral environments suggest that if you are ‘gay’ and grow up in a well-off, well-balanced family, and manage to finish college, you have an outside chance of achieving closer to a straight’s life expectancy. There are gays who live into their 80s and even 90s, though few, and they all have the above good fortunes, plus a ‘life partner’, but they are the exception that proves the rule.

Either God/ evolution produced this anomalous human behavior for some as yet inexplicable reason, or he/it was mistaken. It is anomalous everywhere in societies and nature. Homosexuals constitute approximately 2% of the human population. The US Center for Disease Control and Prevention and an Australian study found that 3% call themselves gay, lesbian and bisexual and 3.9 percent as “something else”. A 2003 Australian study found 1.6% were homosexual and 0.9% were bisexual. As with all things gay, it is hard to know the facts.

If homosexuality is a mistake in nature, then logically the mistake would have petered out. So we must conclude there is some reason for this behavior.

Nature’s say

In recent years, there has been a veritable explosion of studies in biology about different homosexual behaviors in animals, and in anthropology about different cultural behaviors. For animals, its reason is clear. Studies have shown a wide range of homosexual behavior, especially in fish.

Joan Roughgarden’s Evolution’s Rainbow: Diversity, Gender and Sexuality in Nature and People (2004), uses dozens of examples to show the importance of homosexual behavior from an evolutionary point of view, which can be used in support of the gay agenda. She argues for a new theory of evolution that emphasizes social inclusion and control of access to resources and mating opportunity.

She challenges Darwin who asserts that male/female obey universal templates—males ‘ardent’ and females ‘coy’ (they choose a mate for superior genes, i.e., best male vs best match). She says Darwin ignores social selection, where animals exchange help in return for access to reproductive opportunity, strive for mutual assistance with reproductive opportunity as the currency.

Organisms flow across bonds of any category. In biology, nature abhors a category. Roughgarden asserts a diversity-affirming theory of sex vs a diversity-repressing one (Darwin’s sexual selection).

North Sea pipefish have a complete sex-role reversal, polyandry, where a male harem looks after eggs. Female sex coloration is more ‘beautiful’ and females are larger than males. It is same with different birds (wattled jacanas in Panama). But not with mammals, because of high parental investment by the mammalian female (milk, pregnancy).

So there’s not much there for the gay agenda—a few fish and exotic birds. Vampires provide an interesting case, since they rely on mutual assistance/ reciprocal altruism (they can’t afford to miss a meal two nights in a row, hence food sharing). Animals with ‘nice’ reputations may be included in cooperative activities and ‘meanies’ left out, so strict gender roles are less important there.

Canary-bird fish have large male guards lording it over a big collection of eggs laid by 5 females, with smaller males who mature at younger age and are silent, not defending territories or fighting for the harem, but darting in to fertilize eggs being laid in the larger male territory. In sunfish, there is a similar complex relation between three different male types. In hundreds of fish species there are males in two or more genders. But none of this has any homosexual component.

Support for gaylib (gay liberation, though I like the catchy shorter version, actually the name of a French gay political party opposed to gay marriage) comes from the European flycatcher where the aggressive male courts a feminine male before the female arrives and encourages him to be a neighbor. Sexual attraction is used as a bonding mechanism, though the ultimate goal is male-female bonding and the relationship between the two males is strictly hierarchical.

Clearly, there is an important role for the homosexual in nature—as a social support mechanism in reproduction. So Roughgarden has a point in her critique of the Darwinian theory, which ignores homosexuality as an important element in many cases as helper/ cooperator/ friend/ guard/ teacher/ peacemaker.

Roughhouse sees Darwin’s broad emphasis on the strong, beautiful male—famously the peacock— as patriarchal. In addition to the pipefish and jacanas (rare), where females are larger, more beautiful, there are a very few instances where male-male competition seems completely absent. But there are no gay peacocks. In some fish, two males cooperate to build nests, court a female, with spawning in trios—a menage a trois, but this again is purely devoted to rearing offspring.

The logic for the female in choosing a mate is the totality of reproduction, including growth and protection of young. Copulation provides a shared paternity ‘staying incentive’.

Ruffs (sandpipers) mate in common lekking breeding ground. Birds have two male genders: The dark-ruffed controllers and white-ruffed assistants (who spend time with females off the lek), and jointly court and mate with the female. Females choose not great genes but well-connected genes. When female chooses a male with special colour on his tail, it is not for fashion but rather because she senses this will endow the offspring with a bodily marker of culturally inherited power, like the Tudor nose and/or the likelihood of delivering on promise of parental care

The most bizarre sexual configuration is perhaps the bighorn sheep, where the female is only receptive for 3 days. Almost all m have msm (men having sex with men) (genital licking nuzzling, and anal intercourse. The few males who refuse msm are labeled ‘effeminate’, living with ewes acting like females. But attempts by farmers to breed out the effeminates didn’t work, destroying the domestic social system, and they are left in peace now.

The best example for gaylib are dolphins where males bond in adolescence for life, sex occurs in 3somes and 4somes, more than heterosexual activity.

Interpreting nature

If homosexuality is not directly to further survival (the adaptationist position), why was it not bred out? The neutralist position claims that homosexuality is a neutral byproduct of evolution of other traits. Homosexual behavior is harmless so there is no need to remove it. Anything goes for pleasure as long as it’s not harmful. So if it enjoyable, it should last, even if it is for a small minority. One-zero for gaylib.

The primates are extremely diverse in msm behavior, and there are no clear rules about ‘keeping peace’ or guaranteeing parental care.

  • Baboons indulge in much msm – diddling greeting behaviour, long-lasting coalitions, where 20% of mountings are between males and 10% between females. They have a notoriously violent social life. Same-sex courtship is used for coalition-building but powerful males can break up coalitions.
  • Gibbons breed only every 2-3 yrs and nonabusive intrafamily (incestuous) same-sex behaviour is common. The male parent and offspring engage in penis-fencing.
  • The gorilla has a range of family troops, ranging from one male with his females and offspring to coalitions of 3-5 males, where msm is common. Male mountain gorillas sometimes stay in their natal troops and become subordinate to the silverback. If the silverback dies, these males may be able to become dominant or mate with the females.
  • The bonobo female ape is receptive continually and , and experiences earlier sexual maturity. Both msm and fsf are very common. Some fsf is for 15 minutes every 2 hours. The reasons are to facilitate sharing (sex before eating), reconciliation, integrate new arrivals, and form coalitions against aggressive males.

There are fascinating cases of traditional homosexual behavior and rituals among premodern human tribes. They always involving religious initiation rituals for boys making their transition to manhood. The only cases of long term homosexuality are shamans in Asia and the two-spirit people of some indigenous North Americans, who are considered women in male bodies. Again, the phenomenon is interpreted in religious terms. Homosexuality is a spiritual gift, rather than an excuse for indiscriminate erotic pleasure.

Evolutionary innovation that began around 50m years ago has created a startlingly complex array of societies in the animal kingdom, where homosexual behavior is condoned to manage both within- and between-sex relationships, which are facilitated by physical contact and bodily symbolism and behaviours. Gaylibbers can take comfort from both the adaptationists and neutralists (homosexuality is not a primary adaptation, rather merely for pleasure), but the complexity of human behavior and social relations requires something more than ‘scientific’ observation.

The case of human societies is very different from that of animals. The unique feature of human evolution is the highly developed brain, which allows reason to come to grips with problems around us, and which led to the development of language, spirituality and religion as guiding forces in our relations, including sexual ones.

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2/ Secondary sexual characteristics, pre/capitalist society, and Oedipus

The evidence from nature is that homosexual behavior is useful in some species in ensuring group survival, lowering conflict among males, providing support to stronger males, gathering food for polygamous groups. Surely there must be a genetic foundation for this in nature?

Though not found, this idea has prompted speculation in recent years that there may be a ‘gay gene’ in humans too, though the comparative rarity of homosexuality in humans compared to, say, the pipefish or the bonobo, and the complexity and diversity of human behavior culturally does not support this.

Is there even a need to postulate a homosexual gene in nature? Nonbreeders in both nature and society have always existed, encouraged as a social evolutionary trait to ensure group survival through friendships and greater control of resources, even increasing fertility.

The cell is a partnership. To ensure fertility and survival social interaction is essential, even thought, and in humans, language and spirituality. Sexual characteristics do no always conform to the binary model (for example, the female dominant North Sea pipefish and the wattled jacanas in Panama vs the vast majority of animals—notably the peacock), so it’s logical that genders (behaviour) are also not binary. Sex roles in both nature and society can even be reversible (the house husband).

Mating in nature is a public symbol, managing and publicizing relationships, not a promiscuous anonymous act for mere fleeting pleasure. The female chooses for fertility and survival (she knows that knowledge without will/character is dangerous). A strong aristocratic male may be stupid, but he ensures good genes and survival of the offspring. A nice, friendly weak guy doesn’t usually make the grade. You need a balance of individual and social. Mating is not primarily for sperm transfer, though that is important.

Roughgarden posits that secondary sex characteristics are not just for heterosexual mating but .for same sex pleasure, though there is no proof of this. The fish with two males are clearly defined by nature as dominant and secondary and cooperate to ensure survival of offspring. The owner of the most spectacular secondary sex characteristic, the peacock, exhibits no msm behavior at all. The human fetish of body building and anorexic women is in contradistinction to nature, rather than supported by nature.

Sex in nature is pragmatic. Reproduce and protect. Romance does not enter the picture for the most part apart from a few birds such as the swan, which are monogamous for life.

Msm (male having sex with male) is to acquire and defend resources for family support, which the males pay out as their parental duty in care. Fsf (female having sex with female) is to acquire the circumstances in which they can safely rear the young under their control. Msm and fsf in nature are used to balance relations between sexes, and for the same sex to work together to provide food and safety for the young. Social evolution is turbulent and unpredictable, and even aggressive baboons follow their gentler bonobo cousins in practicing msm for safety. This is the template that can help us understand its role in human societies.

Genders emerge as occupational categories and settings for matings, raising young, and tending resources. Secondary social inclusionary traits (genitals on f spotted hyenas, sfs bonobos and macaques, human brain development, skin colour, body types) evolve fast because once a trait takes hold, anyone without it is excluded from the group. The male who is strong but obnoxious, without male allies, will never have chance to mate.

Monotheism, capitalism, and Freud’s musings

Premodern societies restricted homosexuality for the most part, only allowing it in conformity with strict tribal customs, sometimes proscribing it entirely. And for very good reasons. A society where homosexuality was seen as no different from heterosexuality wouldn’t survive. If it is not an essential attribute to survival, better to keep it carefully under control so it doesn’t interfere with survival needs.

With the invasion of capitalism, premodern societies that restricted homosexual behavior either were wiped out or became subject to extreme pressure to adopt western social mores. ‘Sex in the city’ implied increasingly random sexual behavior focused solely on pleasure, making sex purely an erotic activity, meaningless in terms of survival of the species or the observance of sacred rituals, like choosing a cucumber instead of a carrot.

It was not until the rise of monotheism—Judaism, Christianity and Islam—that homosexual behavior was strictly forbidden by societies now together following the new closely related religions, reflecting their rigorous asceticism. But it continued in the shadows, apart from occasional persecution for the obvious reason (seen as perverse, a sin against nature, etc), though there were few problems until recently.

Homosexuals learned to be discrete, or if they were rich and powerful, were able to intimidate people into accepting them. Only fourteenth-century English King Edward II‘s affair with Piers Gaveston resulted in his death, with the kingdom in disarray for his openly effeminate behavior, though it had been tolerated for decades. Other kings such as James I and Charles II lived and reigned quite happily, keeping their activities from interfering with the running of the state. The secret has always been discretion. No number of ‘gay rights’ would have made any difference. So what led to the gay revolution of the 1960s?

What did change in the recent past was the economic system. Capitalism is more focused on solving our problems through technology then on nature and custom. Initially it ran roughshod over nature, confident that technology would solve all our problems. Nature was not seen as a fit prescription for how to regulate society. It also quickly dismissed the customs (seen as prejudices) which various tribes and societies have built up over time to regulate sexuality.

At least in the rich West, people now living in urban centers were cut off from nature and the need to follow the rhythms of nature. Mass production now produced a glut of commodities to consume. And population growth means a glut of people, removing any need for sex to promote procreation.

With the advance of capitalism and its ideology of liberalism, we are all the same (only some are a lot richer), the logic proceeding relentlessly through the gamut of behavior.

The littler quirk of who you sleep with gained the attention of ‘scientists’, who were determined to answer all the mysteries of life with fine precision, whether or not some might just be unfathomable mysteries that have more to do with spirituality, an annoying relic of precapitalism that had no fit place in the sterile world of material things. A ‘gay’ had sex for purely sensual reasons, not as a way to achieve insight into the spiritual world.

Neocon liberation

Hence the smooth transition of former homophobes, as witnessed today in the US, into ardent supporters of gay liberation. For them, gaylib has nothing to do with true liberation, and everything to do with commoditization, creating uniform manipulable humans who accept the materialist ‘traditions’ of capitalism, which are the direct antithesis of liberation, and undermine the true value of homosexual behavior.

Elliott Management hedge fund’s founder and chief executive, Paul Singer, a billionaire and by no means a gaylibber, discovered his son was gay son, and when he married his partner in 2004, daddy hosted the ‘celebration. Since then Singer senior has become a gay activist too. In 2011, he helped enact the same-sex marriage law in New York and started American Unity PAC to encourage Republican candidates to support same-sex marriage.

In nature, homosexuality has a subsidiary, supportive role, presumably the result of genetic mutations (though imprinting in the young can continue the adaptive behavior without any special ‘gene’). In society, on the contrary, social factors are dominant.

Problems in humans only arise with unnatural imprinting when attitudes formed in youth make natural attraction (i.e., peer group male-female) difficult. Reverse sexual imprinting is seen especially in instances where two people who live in domestic proximity during the first few years in life one become desensitized to later close sexual attraction in general.

This has been labelled the Westermarck effect, and has since been observed in many places and cultures, including in the Israeli kibbutz system, and the Chinese Shim-pua marriage customs, as well as in biological-related families.

Westermarck’s sensible study undermines Freud’s more spectacular son-mother oedipal complex. Freud had a wet-nurse, and may not have experienced the early intimacy that would have tipped off his perceptual system that Mrs Freud was his mother. “The Westermarck theory has out-Freuded Freud.” (Steven Pinker, How the Mind Works (1997).

Perhaps being smothered by mother/sister love creates homosexual sons. There are lots of instances of this documented, though in other cases, the son turns out heterosexual. There are no hard and fast rules.

What about Freud’s insistence that we are all bisexual? This hypothesis was based on the fact that initially the fertilized egg in the uterus was not differentiated between male and female, that the differentiation between male and female came as the mother’s hormones set to work fashioning male and female out of the fertilized egg. Freud speculated that there is a subconscious continuity (though with no scientific foundation): as adults everyone still has desires derived from both the masculine and the feminine sides of their natures supposedly found in the undifferentiated egg cell.

But the evidence of bisexuality is not convincing. Less than 1% of adults claim they are bisexual, even in this age of sexual liberation. Ironically gay activists argued prior to the mid-1980s, that there were only two sexual orientations: homosexual or heterosexual. One was either sexually attracted to the same sex or to the opposite sex. They regarded bisexuals as if they were really homosexuals who were not ready to come out of the closet.

There is some truth to this. A 2005 study at Northwestern University and the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto measured genital arousal in men and women while they viewed erotic movies. One of the authors, Gerulf Rieger, said, “Regardless of whether the men were gay, straight or bisexual, they showed about four times more arousal to one sex or the other.” So another elegant Freudian theory bites the dust.

The gaylibbers are not dismayed. Since the 1980s, the vast majority of homosexuals and gay-positive groups have accepted bisexuality as a separate, legitimate sexual orientation. The gay movement is officially Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender (GLBT). Possibly the earlier resistance of gay activists to embrace the tiny bisexual coterie was due to gays who envied their quasi-straight comrades, able to enjoy both women and men in bed, have a family and the good life—eating their cake. Whatever. Now the movement has moved on to a new maturity, dubbed “pansexual” by Edmund White. Now it’s ‘anything goes’.

Bisexuality as an important feature of society has been documented only in the Sambia of New Guinea and other similar Melanesian cultures. What little evidence exists in the West suggests that bisexuals’ lives are unstable, psychologically stressful. Not an adaptive mechanism in nature or society.

But capitalism seems less interested in well-adjusted humans in a peaceful society than in devotion to creating money, in as straightforward a manner as possible. Marriage is a bedrock of society, so it is an integral part of this. So make it simple—make sure everyone can get hitched—gay or straight—and pursue the good life of commodity consumption in an every growing economy. This program has proceeded quickly in the past two decades, though the Catholic church and Islam have resisted this radical alteration of their beliefs. Protestantism on the whole has accepted this development. Already 32 states have legalized gay marriage.

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3/ The 19th — 20th c rise of gay movement

The rise of gaylib began in the 19th c, as capitalism took hold of western society and began to shape behavior and society to the needs of the new order, based on money and profit as the dominant determinants of change.

The best known homosexual writer that emerged at this period was the American poet Walt Whitman (1819 – 1892), who idealized male-male relations, but in a way that has made him appealing not just to gays but to heterosexuals as well. He was a pacifist during the civil war and devoted himself to providing comfort to dying troops, some of whom bonded with him as a kind of soul mate and allowed him physical intimacy, primarily a tender kiss to ease their loneliness and pain. His ethic is primarily comradery rather than public display of homosexuality and cross-dressing.

The most famous scientist who promoted homosexual freedom was Magnus Hirschfield who founded Berlin’s Institute for Sexual Science (1919–1933). Meanwhile, the new gay culture was percolating, with many writers, especially British and French, writing novels which are now considered gay classics, though they didn’t openly describe homosexual characters, but rather depicted a new more open sexual ethic. The British Bloomsbury Group includes Virginia Woolf, John Maynard Keynes, E. M. Forster, and Lytton Strachey, all of whom were gay. EM Forster (1879-1970) was the most famous.

Christopher Isherwood (Berlin Stories (1945) later made into the film Cabaret) took advantage of Germany’s economic crisis in the 1920s–1930s to live in Berlin, attracting destitute youth for his pleasure. But there were no ‘gay’ blockbuster novels to emerge from the new sexual libertinism.

Andre Gide (1869–1951) is the best European writer of the period. He wrote a notable essay on homosexuality Corydon (1924) for which he was loudly condemned, though he avoided being slotted as homosexual. At the same time as the scandal over Corydon emerged, he married and had a child.

A scholarly work of literary criticism, it argues that homosexuality is not unnatural, and that it pervaded the most culturally and artistically advanced civilizations such as Periclean Greece, Renaissance Italy and Elizabethan England. He dismisses exclusive heterosexuality, which he believes is merely a union constructed by society. His novel Les faux-monnayeurs (The Counterfeiters, 1925) is still read, considered an honest treatment of homosexuality and the collapse of morality in middle-class France at the time.

Gide was an ardent supporter of communist Russia and wrote dozens of novels and political works spanning a remarkable range. He won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1948 “for his comprehensive and artistically significant writings, in which human problems and conditions have been presented with a fearless love of truth and keen psychological insight.”

WWII ended up encouraging the new gay ethic—millions of men fighting and dying even before most had achieved sexual maturity and the possibility of experiencing normal sexual relations. Understandably, many indulged in homosexual behavior. Though the vast majority did so only as a temporary release, the post-war period resounded with a new tradition of male-male relations. This gave courage to Alfred Kinsey who undertook surveys and made extensive interviews with homosexuals in the US starting in 1948, publishing Sexual Behavior in the Human Male in 1965.

Hitler’s persecution of Jews and gays also led these two groups to bond to assert their rights. From the beginning, Jews were at the forefront of gay rights. Jews had their legal rights in the West already (though there was some prejudice), but it took another two decades for homosexual rights to be achieved.

Senator Joseph McCarthy’s investigation of homosexuals holding government jobs during the early 1950s was important in providing sympathy for homosexuals wrongly persecuted. In the cynical atmosphere of the Cold War and disappointed with the attempt to return society to the repressive prewar standards, a new group of writers, now including many Americans, were able to publish their more openly gay prose.

Gore Vidal’s The City and the Pillar (1948) was the first homosexual novel published in the US. He had to write under a pseudonym for six years until tempers cooled. He thought that men and women potentially are pansexual, rejecting the adjectives “homosexual” and “heterosexual” when used as nouns, as inherently false terms used to classify and control people in society.

Like Gide, Vidal avoided being slotted as a gay writer, becoming more famous as a popular historian, political commentator and anti-war critic. In his memoirs, he concludes that friendship, not long term sexual relations is the best option to sustain meaningful relations, with lovers merely for sex on the side.

In the galylib era, Holleran, Hollinghurst and others posit gay romance in imitation of straight romance, but not convincingly. There are no important ‘gay’ novels to compare with Vidal’s (unrequited love), or Gide’s.

Holleran’s best work, and arguably the best gay novel written in recent times is Dancer from the Dance (1978), and follows Vidal’s and Gide’s pessimism about the possibility of a homosexual romance. Both the main characters commit suicide (one OD’ing, the other disappearing into the Atlantic), neither having had a successful homosexual relationship.

The queen character, Sutherland, and a young friend discuss this. The friend comments: I don’t think two men can love each other … in that way. It will always be a sterile union, it will always be associated with guilt. Sometimes I think that God was sitting up above the world one day, after He had created it and someone said ‘Now what could we throw in to spoil it? You’ve created such a perfect existence, how could it go amuck?’ someone said, ‘Confuse the sexes, Have the men desire men instead of women, and the women desire women.’ Life would be marvelous if we weren’t homosexual. To grow up, to fall in love, to have children, grow old and die. But then God threw in that monkey wrench. As if out of sheer mischief!

Sutherland protests cynically: No. Gays could have that marital bliss, but are afraid, cynical pessimistic, self-loathing. Love bids them follow and they say no, I’d rather spend my evenings in the men’s room at Grand Central.

Both characters have 1000s of tricks over the course of the novel, hating themselves for it, but unable to stop.

The beautiful sexy gay character, Malone, comments: “How easy it must be, to come out in the evening to call your dog, to walk home with the wife’s arm in yours.” But this vision of domestic bliss was beyond his reach. He cried and was shocked that gay people “secrete everything in each other’s presence but tears. They come on each other, they piss on each other, or shit, but never tears. The only sign of tenderness they never secrete in each other’s presence.

In a plea for celibacy, Malone realized he had ceased to be a homosexual, so much as he had become a pederast. “Now he recognized a young man’s beauty was just that—a fact: his beauty—and that he could not worship it, possess it, consume it, digest it … handsome as a myth on the plain of Troy, an impersonal fact, as impersonal as the beauty of a tree. He watched boys playing soccer and when the game ended he rose and walked away, a calm spirit.

Holleran’s work is really more an anti-gay novel. He hardly even uses the term ‘gay’, though it had been spread around the world as a noun by 1950s–rather he used homosexual and queen, essentially denying ‘gay’ culture to include quasi-straights who reject the effeminate gays, not identify with them. Though it is full of obscenities, the work could almost be used by the Catholic church to undermine gaylib. It is very depressing; the loneliness and deformity of the characters overwhelms the reader. The reader could easily conclude from the confessions of Sutherland and Malone that only solution is inner peace achieved through celibacy.

Where is the great gay novel with a happy ending? Perhaps the best is Forster’s Maurice, written in 1913–1914, and revised in 1932 and 1959–1960, published only after Forster’s death in 1971. It was based on the relationship between the socialist/ spiritualist poet Edward Carpenter, and his partner, George Merrill, and Forster himself was ambivalent about it: “Publishable, but worth it?” Gaylib’s insistence on a happy ending represents the refusal to make the best the gay myth—a bittersweet “short story—of youth and chance and public toilets and then the long half-life of irony and discretion.”

Cultural revolution

The new movement culminated for gays in the 1969 Stonewall riots in New York, where gays led by defiant crossdressers took the media by storm and inspired the creation of support groups, first in New York, San Francisco and European capitals, where gays were an outsized minority, as rural gays flocked to these centers to lead more open lives. The primary goal was civil rights, and when Martin Luther King achieved this for blacks in the late 1960s, basic civil rights (for fair treatment in mental health, public policy, and employment) followed for homosexuals.

Liberal protestant churches such as United Church allowed gay ministers in 1972. In 1973 the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality as an “illness” classification in its diagnostic manuals. Openly gay politicians were elected starting in the 1970s. Civil unions and gay marriage starting in the 1990s (though marriage is still accepted only in 38 states).

A new culture for the West was in the making. But what is the new culture? Relying on the large gay ghettos in these cities, in the first place it was defined by unrestricted public sex (not only alleys but bathhouses and bars). By the 1980s, the orgy began to look ominous for society. HIV/AIDS, a fearsome virus with no cure, swept American and Europe, killing 100,000s, and then migrated to Africa and the entire world primarily through sexual contact—initially homosexual but as the virus spread, it increasingly affected heterosexuals as well.

The Public Library of Science’s Medicine journal estimates it now accounts for about 2.8 million deaths every year. The World Health Organization estimates that at a total of least 117 million people will die from AIDS from 2006 to 2030. Currently ranked fourth behind heart disease, stroke, and respiratory infections, AIDS is set to become No. 3, say researchers in a new report

Though this horrendous medical situation was a direct result of the new promiscuity, few have pointed the finger at the gay movement. Given their new civil rights, it is considered homophobia to attack homosexuals. Besides, the damage was done. Only Muslims (and ironically Holleran) defiantly assert that homosexuality is a sin and should be proscribed.

The response in the West was to work on a cure, which for the most part has been found for severe sufferers, allowing them to survive (though weakened), to comfort them (‘don’t feel guilty, just get on with your life), and to promote ‘safe sex’, which means condoms during all sexual activity. Not a word about celibacy for homosexuals, the Muslim ‘cure’.

A ‘rational’ response to AIDS

Clearly homosexuality is a loose cannon and needed some kind of social control. And literature has provided little guidance, rather jumping on the self-righteous promiscuity of the gay movement (using condoms).

Hence, the new movement for gay marriage, which promotes monogamy, effectively undoing the short-lived spree of promiscuity as an acceptable way of living (and avoiding the idea of celibacy), and returning to an updated version of the traditional social ethic of the pre-Stonewall Christian era.

We are all secularist now, no need for religion as a guiding force, proscribing sinful activity. Instead, we rationally control our behavior, based on scientific principles. There is no sin in homosexual behavior, only poor management.

Just how all this will pan out is not clear. Again, gay culture is not helpful. Male friendships traditional have been a kind of marriage but without the sex. They are much safer, and long-lasting. Gay marriages are, let’s face it, unnatural, boring, shades of 1950s suburbia. Evidence shows that after a few years, most gay marriages are sexless. You aren’t having sex to reproduce, but merely for sensual pleasure.

Yes, you can adopt children, even use your sperm to artificially impregnate a poor Malaysian woman who will ship her child to you for your consumption. But this hardly looks fair. And what are the implications for children growing up in such a sterile environment, without the natural role models of a female mother and male father? What is left of the mystery, the sacrament of male-female sexuality, which developed over 10,000 years as human society evolved?

Advocates of gay marriages see homosexuality as a carbon copy of straight life. But being ‘gay’ means something very different, a subversive nature, the result of some kind of ‘blessure’ during childhood and adolescence. The tendency to promiscuity and the difficulty in establishing a permanent relationship shows this.

Allen Ginsberg (1926–1997), the most celebrated American poet of gaydom, left an unsettling legacy after a lifetime of unending promiscuity. “Looks like I’ll masturbate as the main erotic completion till my deathbed.” All his life he had looked for lovers, and although he’d found temporary partners, he had found “none at liberty for a lifetime,” believing that “by age forty or certainly sixty,” this part of his life would be well settled and he would have a love partner. Now came the realization that he’d never find one person to share his life with, and the finality of that statement surprised him.

As he reflected on his life, he regretted that he had hung on to his naive sexual fantasies for as long as he had. The young boys he repeatedly fell in love with always grew older, and were always basically heterosexual, too. Not much to build a long-term sexual relationship on. Like Gore Vidal, he settled into a nonsexual relationship with Peter that was a different kind of love and companionship.

 

4/ Gays, Hollywood and Glamor

What about the world of glamor which exploded in the 20th c in Hollywood and TV? I recently caught two documentaries about gay image-makers, one about Rock Hudson, the other about figure skating sensation Eric Radford. The Hudson piece Rock Hudson: Dark and Handsome Stranger (2010) was trashy, quoting his ‘friends’ about how wonderful he was, how ‘gay’ he was (forgetting they idolized his closeted hetero image for forty years). No substantive critique of his acting or insight into his promiscuity and inability to form lasting relationships. It mostly showed pin-ups and then pathetic media images of his final years and return from Paris in 1985 in a specially rented plane. Considering the film was supposed to be a tribute to him, it was vacuous and left a bad taste.

Archetypes, old and new

Gays need better archetyping/ stereotyping, which is what popular culture should provide, as it did throughout the ages. Among the Greeks are Ares (war, valor), Hermes (religion, messenger of the gods), Hephaestus (craftsman, sculptor), Dionysus (wine, religious ecstasy), and Ganymede (beauty, pederasty). The greatest ancient myth is the Mesopotamian epic of Gilgamesh and Enkidu, a story of comradeship, love and reconciliation with death. Now the top 10 Gay Male Character Archetypes are Straight Acting or Butch, Effeminate, Queens, Drama Queen, Flaming Queen, Drag Queen, Twink, Bear, Trannies and Boy Toy.

To give classical Hollywood its due, there were lots of males exuding masculinity, courage and intelligence. Hollywood was a lifesaver for gays, who were able to live vicariously through their heroes. And boy-meets-girl was just fine. Gays for the most part recognized their ‘blessure’ and yearned for the happy ending that they sensed only hetero love could provide. This included the Rock Hudson/ Doris Day romantic comedies where there was far more comedy than romance, and where the comedy was gay-positive, and because it was closeted, twice as funny and accessible to straight audiences. They and much of Hollywood fare remain beloved to gays and straights alike. .

Before gaylib, homosexuals were mostly ignored in movies, foils or sidekicks of the hero (Holmes’ Dr Watson, the Lone Ranger’s Tonto, Batman’s Robin, Don Quixote’s Sancho Panchez), the odd celibate (uncle Harry) tolerated, occasionally befriending and mentoring a lost teen. Now parents are paranoid about older male-younger male friendships, demanding bureaucracies with sexless guardians eyeing potential lechers, Hugh Grant’s About a Boy (2002) a charming and notable (and very hetero) exception.

Mindless fretting — what better way to produce homophobes in your teenagers (unless they rebel or are gay and tell the parents to screw off)? In truth, just how serious was child molestation on the whole before gaylib? No stats, which partly suggests the problem was not widespread. Now our media screams out rumors (guilty until proven innocent), destroying people’s lives in the interest of ‘children’s rights’.

The other documentary I caught was about figure skater Eric Radford, gold medalist at the 2015 World Figure Skating Championships. In December 2014, he publicly came out as gay in an interview with the LGBT publication Outsports. In doing so, he became the first competitive figure skater ever to come out at the height of his career; Radford and Duhamel’s gold medal win in pairs skating made him the first openly gay figure skater ever to win a medal at that competition. He is an ambassador for the Canadian Olympic Committee’s #OneTeam program to combat homophobia in sports. He ‘came out’ not as a partner in a luscious romance, but as a mentor to young boys (a la Hugh Grant). In the documentary, his pairs partner Meagan Duhamel is shown adjusting her frilly wedding gown, dutifully marrying her coach in the fashion of today’s business partnership—today’s ideal marriage (2 lawyers, doctors, dentists, etc.).

My hats off to Eric—can he pull it off? No one will ever be interested in skating programs with him dresses in frills, dramatizing a sex change, or playing the diva in Tosca, just as gay movies in Hollywood are a bust. Nor will they be able to take him seriously as machoman—his superman days are over. Like Brian Orser, he is nothing to worry about, as he is a fine, artistic skater and creative scenarist. There are lots of abstract themes that will no doubt keep him busy—Firebird, Rite of Spring, bisexual characters who are tragic in their inability to sustain a straight relationship, destined to fall for the hero. Gilgamesh’s Enkidu. There is never any homophobia for sports champions anyway. And what’s so wrong about being the tragic fall-guy, saving the godlike prince, sacrificing one’s life for the love of another? Frankly give me Enkidu any day. Being Gilgamesh for 126 years sounds like a bore.

Hollywood’s ‘success’

There are a handful of gay movies, but only Brokeback Mountain (2005) has artistic value, and like all other gay literature with any value, is tragic and hardly gay positive. It appealed to hetero audiences precisely because of that (and the straight actors). There are independent films such as the bitter sweet British coming-of-age comedies Beautiful Thing (1996) and Get Real (1998), but with no happy endings.

The German Free Fall (2013) was more anti- than pro-gay. A devilish rebel cop entices a straight cop into an affair even as his wife is pregnant. He destroys the straight cop’s family and essentially his life, through selfishness and his own amorality. The straight cop follows him trying to satisfy his lust and his obsessive romantic fantasy. But some things should remain fantasy. The most interesting was the Israeli Out in the Dark (2012), which poses starkly the dilemma of a Palestinian youth, Nimr (leopard) —should he give in to his homosexual yearnings, destroying his family and his own happiness, abandoning the Palestinian struggle, or spy for the Israelis, kill his brother and/or run to the West and await his Israeli lover? This is hardly a cry for gay liberation.

Gaylib has not had much real effect on Hollywood. Gays before gaylib would secretly slaver over Rock Hudson in a macho Giant movie (1956), ravishing Liz Taylor (who no doubt preferred the kiss of a forbidden gay to the boring macho stereotypes she was forced to deal with). Now they slaver over Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. No change in Hollywood role models, except for the odd (unpleasant, pathetic, comedic) gay minor character. Gay films are box office suicide and will never happen.

Interestingly, Hudson’s career has revived. Gays love him, and straights love that he loved them and was happy to act the straight (much better than most straights). Many of his films took on a new piquant character—the Doris Day unsexy romances (how many gays have lived out some variation on this?) where Doris loves him not for his sexiness, but for his puppy dog cuteness. His attempt to become a serious actor resulted in some fascinated movies— Seconds (1966) about a guy completely changing his character)—a direct allegory for his own secret life, and appropriately tragic. Other gay Hollywood icons such as Tab Hunter quickly fell victim of their too pretty looks and disappeared, now nostalgic flotsam for gays.

No, there is no getting around the traditional social norms, no matter how many gay marriages and divorces, no matter how many cloned offspring from starving Malaysian mothers desperate to sell their eggs to keep their own children alive. But think of the implications of this for not only the Malaysian mother, but for the children brought up with no genetic heritage beyond one (or even 2) gay fathers, having being plopped down in the middle of suburban America, where money reigns and anything goes. This might drive a thoughtful youth to suicide (or anti-gaylib revolt), as he realizes he is in fact a social experiment in a brave new world, a plaything of science and superrich parents who have nothing better to do to help humanity than create their own gene justification to consumer greater and great amounts of the world’s resources, already exploited to death.

Childish American culture

In the old, classic comedies of the studio era — the screwball roller coasters of marriage and remarriage, with their wit and sly innuendo (for example, Bringing Up Baby (1938)—adulthood was a wearisome fact. It was burdensome but also full of opportunity. You could drink, smoke, flirt and spend money. The trick was to balance the fulfillment of your wants with carrying out your duties.

But the strictures of patriarchy underlie American culture. Escape is fleeting and rare—Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer, Ishmael and Queequeg in Moby-Dick, apparently sexless but intensely homoerotic cross-cultural connections. Such platonic friendship was their way of escape. This arrested development contributed to the rise of gaylib—the ultimate refusal to grow up. In a sense, all American fiction is young-adult fiction.

Pederasty vs pedophilia

And what about that elusive group of homosexuals who in the past enjoyed mutually enjoyable contact with boys, helping them go to university, passing them on to their natural str8 life, such as Daniel Carleton Gajdusek (1923–2008), who won the Nobel Prize in Medicine in 1976 for his work on kuru, the first human prion disease demonstrated to be infectious. He loved boys (no crime in New Guinea), adopted 17 Guinean youth (and one girl) and brought them to the US as immigrants, providing them with wonderful lives. How is Gajdusek remembered today? Only as an evil pedophile. In 1996, Gajdusek was charged with child molestation on suspect evidence, spent 12 months in prison before entering a self-imposed exile in Europe, where he died a decade later.

Whose fault is this travesty of justice? Is it homophobia, media sensationalism, or perhaps gaylib itself, which for decades since 1960s has screamed about ‘equal rights’, and has worked to ‘out’ quiet and nondangerous pederasts like Gajdusek (or Baden Powell for that matter), who were not child molesters (pedophiles). Just compare those two very similar men. Powell was left in peace by the media (there was still some sense of culture and respect for real human rights a century ago), and, 50 years later, in the age of gaylib, Gajdusek was reviled and turned into a media clown. Anything to make a buck.

That’s not gaylib’s fault, but gaylib joined in this cultural morass. It feared defending someone like Gajdusek, who channeled his pederasty in a positive way. Gaylib caved in to the secular ethos, dumping the complex traditions of homosexuality in exchange for the social compromise now being implemented, based on the power of money to regulate our moral life.

Yes, pederasty is always fraught with danger. It relies on a strict moral code in the mentor (inculcated from implicit social mores) not to overstep any bounds that might harm the youth, and also the mentored not to provoke his powerful new acquaintance to anything he might later regret. The Greek figured this out. The art is lost today.

 

5/ Gaylib and Religion

Homosexuality is a sin in all the monotheisms, or was until the protestants began their pilgrimage to gay rights in the 1970s. It is not hard to understand why, both socially (see above) and physically. Accepting the passive role in sex labels you a woman in the act, which is a violation of male activeness. The active partner is generally forgiven as being essentially straight, while the passive one is reviled publicly.

But the passive role is really an enactment of nature’s supportive role for homosexual behavior. The passive partner acknowledges his secondary role, his flawed nature, Gilgamesh’s Enkidu.

Malone’s problem in Dancer from the Dance undermining his struggle to achieve a gay romance was that he was religious—he didn’t believe that a gay romance was possible since it was a sin or at best unnatural. “As a child, he consecrated his life to Christ, as an adult to some adventurous ideal of homosexual love, both had left him flat.”

Catholicism took sex seriously, but was replaced in newly invaded colonies by Protestantism, precisely because Catholicism was more traditional, resistant to the needs of capitalism. Protestantism has now erased the very concept of sin for gays. Catholic priests say that ‘the homosexual is not a sinner, it is the acts that are the sin’, but the pressure within the Catholic establishment is to condone homosexuality, including the acts.

The lack of success in preventing abortion among Catholics is a harbinger of things to come for gays. This is not so surprising given that the Christian church has always been willing to bend the rules. It embraced pagan rituals as it became the religion of the Roman empire. Muslims see this as a condemnation of Christianity but many New Age Christians argue it was a good thing.

Some liberal Christians agree that stories like the virgin birth, bringing dead people back to life, the many miraculous healings, exorcisms, transfiguration, crucifixion, resurrection, ascension, Jesus’ anticipated return to judge humanity, etc. derived from pagan material that had been circulating for centuries, and cannot refer to real events in Jesus’ life.

Christian mystics (gnostics) developed the myth of a god-man savior not as a literal description of the historical Jesus, but as an understanding of their “inner mysteries”. The literalist Christians, being ignorant of the inner mysteries, and well-practiced in pagan cults, did not realize that the god-man story was only a legend about a mythical being, adapting it as a literal description.

If this is true, then other key Christian beliefs have to be questioned and perhaps abandoned. This is the belief of gay Christians.

Catholic art especially is bathed in sensuality, reveling in breath-taking scenes of martyrdom (of mostly beautiful young men) and exquisite Madonnas suckling the baby Jesus. Protestant art is more straight-laced, but it was based on bourgeois culture, i.e., making money, and when it prevailed by the 18th–19th century in Europe, it used its new stupendous wealth on the arts. As secularism took hold, this meant that art became more decadent, discarding for the most part the spirituality underlying the Catholic art of the Middle Ages.

Gays have traditionally been at the center of the arts, before and after the Middle Ages. Why?

Homosexuality is a radical departure from social norms, subversive of the social order. A ‘gay’ sensibility is one which is critical, more artistic, forced to observe society from outside. Hence the predominance of gays in the arts.

If you are an outcast as a simple worker, an integral part of straight society, it is necessary to prove yourself in other ways to justify your existence. There has never been homophobia directed at outstanding artists. They are embraced by society—as long as they keep quiet about their sexual lives and don’t rock the boat. Hence the tragedy of Oscar Wilde, who could easily have avoided a public scandal, but chose to defy society instead.

Islam and gays

We can never destroy HIV but we can keep it under control. HIV is a kind of anti-social warning about the dangers of discarding time-proven social mores. Just as a cure for AIDS has proved to be possible, and has given a new life to sufferers, so awakening to the moral degeneracy that provoked the AIDS crisis, and the links between the economic and social effects of capitalism can lead to a ‘magic pill’.

A tele-evangelist on 100 Huntley last night made the following remark: at a conference, an anti-religious academic told the audience he has spent his career studying the bible. The evangelist asked, “If you despise the bible, why spend your life studying it?” “Because our whole western civilization is founded on the bible,” the atheist shot back.

The evangelist failed to take this to its logical conclusion: that the atheist sees our civilization as a fraud. The atheist has a point. The bible is full of doctored texts, with the crucifixion and resurrection pagan myths, and the worship of Mary and Jesus tantamount to polytheism. Christianity is a distortion of Jesus’s message. Is it any wonder that protestant Christianity so cavalierly embraced gaylib?

Secularism promised gaylib these days as a way to tame the inherently subversive nature of homosexuality, incorporate it into the commoditized ‘me’ culture of secular capitalism, which promises ‘the individual’ fulfilment of his desires by submitting totally to the market. But gays are on the whole promiscuous—and with complete freedom in an urban culture and ease of travel, this led to the spread of sexual diseases, especially HIV, and wiped out a generation of gaylibbers.

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While a gay can be ‘proud’ of his greater sensibility (a mix of feminine and masculine), giving him greater social insight and a career, say, as a pianist, he still will sigh with frustration for not being able to experience the full gamut of human relations, including having children and being ‘one of the boys’.

He can acknowledge it is wrong in a social sense, and keep it discrete (as do Muslims), or he can join the dominant culture in a monogamous lifestyle with a fellow gay, as a couple, trying to fit into the dominant culture in stable way.

Islam is not the deadend that western secularists suppose. Celibacy and/or merely discretion and acceptance of homosexuality as a sin which should be kept out of sight worked for a thousand years, and looks like the most logical social paradigm. If done discretely homosexual behavior is not punished, as the Quranic sharia law acknowledges when it insists on four witnesses to any such act, and allows the perpetrators leniency if they acknowledge their sins and (at least nominally) repent.

This modus vivendi worked well until capitalism and its secular gaylib agenda invaded the region. The Muslim family is far more secure and a much better model for how to raise children.

Politically, too, Islam has a lot to offer. It is a religion of peace. Even neocons admit now that the only way forward in Syria is for the US to pull out. That is Quranic whether the NYT columnist Ross Dohat believes it or not. Recall that the peaceful return to Mecca (629–630) involved no killing or plunder, and amnesty was granted to the Muslims’ enemies, leading to mass conversion of the Meccans and marking the beginning of the consolidation of Islam in Arabia.

This is the Islamic program, as it has been for over a millennium

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Gay marriage

Why is gay marriage so important to activists? Civil unions are perfectly adequate to cover the secular legal issues of divorce. Those who opt for marriage clearly must be religious (almost all protestant Christian), having accepted the Christianity as revised to airbrush sin out of the picture.

The legislative drive to legalize marriage is the secular establishment’s way to keep up the pressure to consolidate a revised version of all religions, forcing them to accept the secular establishment as the dominant force in society. Islam is the only real holdout.

That’s why gay marriage is a travesty not only for Muslims, but for those homosexuals who take pride in their radical, slightly subversive nature. Where would western civilization be without the (homosexual-driven) culture it produced? Culture means a critical analysis of society, or at least a reveling in beauty for its sake alone.

But gaylib is on board imperialism’s movement to undermine Islam. It is not easy to see the forest from the trees in Syria today, but the bottom line is the West has no right to impose its system on the Muslim world, including the gaylib program to impose the gay social agenda on Muslim societies.

It is incredible that western citizens, with gays in the forefront, condoned the invasions of Afghanistan and Iraq, which have merely added fuel to the anti-western sentiment in the Muslim world. Instead, gay groups are much more concerned with a handful of young Iraq/ Afghani men being persecuted as gays, something that would not have happened without the invasions. Sadly, gaylib has produced little of value, just as capitalism and imperialism have produced little of value.

How this will pan out is not clear. In 2011, Hebdo editor Stephane Charbonnier stated, “We have to carry on until Islam has been rendered as banal as Catholicism.”

Islam will never condone gay marriage and accede to the demand to revise Islam to eradicate the term ‘sin’ with respect to homosexuality. The fate of the Catholic church is less clear. But there is nothing remotely progressive about undermining a sacred rite in the name of a pro forma equality of sexes.

6/ Celibacy and friendship

Inspired by Stokely Carmichael’s “Black is Beautiful”, the term “Gay is good” was coined in 1968. The intent was to counter both social and internalized homophobia, but also to promote free sex and homosexuality as a normal and viable life style. It follows the communist intent on wiping out past traditions and building a supposedly rational culture, this time where ‘gay is good’ (whether or not it really is). Promiscuity among Baby Boomer of all stripes rose in the 1960s to 11 partners (from three partners pre-WWII). Among homosexuals, the figure is in the hundreds.

The sexual freedom from the 1960s on became the underlying cause of humanity’s greatest scourge. The World Health Organization estimates that at a total of least 117 million people will die from AIDS from 2006 to 2030. Currently ranked fourth behind heart disease, stroke, and respiratory infections, AIDS is set to become No. 3, say researchers in a new report. It exceeds all the deaths from wars in the 20th century, yet no one is held to blame. The only response is ‘safe sex’. A bit like ‘Be sure to wear your helmet when biking!’

The gay psychoanalyst Richard Isay doesn’t consider celibacy in his therapy but celibacy has long been revered as a spiritual path, one that is difficult but valuable. The conversion program of such groups as Homosexuals Anonymous is not so much to create more practicing heterosexuals, but to encourage abstinence. Homosexuals Anonymous’s modest success includes 3% conversions, and 8% celibacy, putting the ‘success’ rate at 11%. This could be a lot higher if the government replaced ‘sex education’ and free condoms for teens with innovative programs to encourage celibacy.

Many ‘gays’ (probably the majority) are celibate and are far from gaylibbers. Almost no boys who sense they are gay are happy about their sex life. Depression and suicide is higher among self-proclaimed gays than in the broader population. Embracing a lifestyle they despise should not be the only option.

Whatever the hormonal story behind homosexuality, Freud is still the best explanation that puts it in a social context. For most males, gay identity is fixated at an early stage of development, a wound, for some, hardwired from the womb, for many, because of inadequate parenting, peer bullying and sometimes molestation by an older male or school friend. Healing (whether gay or straight) for the latter requires struggle with childhood traumas in the attempt to establish a viable sexual identity, whatever the final outcome is.

Gay male couples are really just a continuation of the traditional male friendship, and as such should be seen as a model, whether or not the partners have a sexual relationship, in line with Gilgamesh and Enkidu, a story of comradeship, love and reconciliation with death. Aristotle: “The excellent person is related to his friend in the same way as he is related to himself, since, a friend is another self.” Most long term relations with a partner are soon sexless, which does not mean a failure. Rather it means a return to the traditional male bonding and restraint.

Channeling god’s trick

Homosexuality has different causes, but homosexuals have always had a place in society, be it on the fringe (or hidden). Homosexuals have traditionally had a special, slightly subversive role in society as creators of critical artistic culture, channeling their sexual energy, not into reproduction, but into cultural creation. EM Forster, Andre Gide, Jean Genet, Mary Renault—the 20th century’s greatest ‘gay’ writers—kept their sexuality private. The best gay novels are tragic, underlining the reality of homosexuality

While society has always tolerated these artistic gays as making a positive contribution, the essence of homosexuality in nature is the role it plays in protecting and supporting the reproduction of the tribe/ genus. Gaylib has little to offer here. But in Holleran’s Dancer in the Dance (1978), Malone realized he had ceased to be a homosexual, so much as he had become a pederast. “Now he recognized a young man’s beauty was just that—a fact: his beauty—and that he, Malone, could not worship it, possess it, consume it, digest it … handsome as a myth on the plain of Troy, an impersonal fact, as impersonal as the beauty of a tree. He watched boys playing soccer and when the game ended he rose and walked away, a calm spirit.

To do justice to the real reason behind God’s trick we must recognize the contrariness inherent in homosexuality and the try to understand and deal with it, not try to imitate straight family life.

Answers from Nature

Sex during the initial romance can reinforce male friendship, just as the sex hormones during male-female coitus reinforce their bonding in the interests of child rearing. During orgasm, both partners get a rush of oxytocin, associated with the ability to maintain healthy interpersonal relationships, but women also get it when suckling the infant, contributing to mother/infant bonding.

Both partners get a rush of opioid (endorphins), the body’s natural painkillers, producing pleasure but less bonding. The lesson: It is more blessed to give (oxytocin) than to receive (opioid). Homosexual relations founder on the male’s addiction to opioids during sex.

In nature, there is only one documented case of pure homosexuality, which is indeed worthy of consideration. The female of the bighorn sheep is only receptive for 3 days. Almost all males have msm (men having sex with men) (genital licking nuzzling, and anal intercourse). The few males who refuse msm are labeled ‘effeminate’, living with ewes, acting like females. They are mounted by the males, much as gays generally take the passive role in sex. But attempts by farmers to breed out the effeminates (kill all gays) didn’t work, destroying the domestic social system, and they are left in peace now.

Note how complex this homosexual relationship is, and how intriguingly nature molded the relations to conform to the needs of the herd while providing an outlet for the nonconformists without upsetting the group survival. In humans, highly feminine males often find healing through transgender operations, but they are a tiny minority of gays, and not a threat to society. Much like the effeminate bighorn males, they mimic the female. The unquestionable 100% gays.

Male bottlenose dolphins engage in same-sex relations early in life and use the bonds they form to hunt for females as they get older. As they become ‘straight’ in later life, the dolphins work in packs to restrict the movement of female dolphins as they wait for them to become sexually receptive.

Gays can only envious this elegant bisexuality, which conforms to group needs naturally. Now that, in human terms, would make a ‘gay romance’ which straights could enjoy, as the homosexuality contributes to the normal sexual dynamics. It is not disruptive. Nature cannot abide a defiantly homosexual ethic, putting it on a confusing equal basis with normal sex, as it is totally selfish and would not contribute to reproduction. Nature is no help to gay marriage advocates.

Gay critics of the brave new culture

Duane Duncan argues that the primary identification of someone as gay ironically reinforces stigmatization by identifying him as primarily concerned with sex (as opposed to race, politics, religion).  By remaining in the closet, gay people can more fully participate as citizens, without making who one sleeps with the main issue. “The irony is that gay people can be public—treated as full citizens—as long as they are not visible as gay people.”

The Queercore and Gay Shame movements critique what they see as the commercialization and self-imposed “ghettoization” of LGBTQI (lesbian, gay, bi, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex) culture. The LGBTQI community represents an artificial separation, estrangement from straight people, rather than one based on tangible customs or ethnic identification. Further, the movement is artificial, as it includes three groups involved with sexuality and one group exploring transexual/ transgender identity.

Harry Hay, the godfather of the American gay movement, was a founder of the “radical faeries” in 1979, a spiritual tribe of gay men seeking sanctuary in Mother Earth and rural enclaves, promoting environmentally sustainable technologies. The group was a reaction against the social emptiness that many gay men felt was present both in the heterosexual establishment and the assimilationist gay community. As one Faerie commented, in his opinion mainstream gay culture was “an oppressive parody of straight culture”, taking place primarily in bars and not encouraging people to “form bonds or care for each other.

Accommodation

Another way to understand ‘gay’ is as a disability similar to horizontal identities such as deafness (gays can’t ‘hear the call’ of male-female sexuality), identities which transcend vertical identities such a race and class. Deaf people and dwarfs in particular have asserted their civil rights recently through so-called horizontal identities. They affirm/ celebrate their disabilities (deaf/ dwarf/ gay is good), and are less fearful of public display.

Dwarfism is instructive for homosexuals. The only possibility for dwarfs to be normal is a painful and lengthy series of leg breaks allowing the bone to be extended (read: conversion therapy), and is not widely sought out. Bruce: “Sometimes when I watch another dwarf, I feel like we’re pretending to be adults. It’s a life’s project coming to grips with, really, how you look. If I could do it over, I’d want not to be a dwarf. It’s been too difficult.” (And he had accepting parents). Other dwarfs plunge right into normal society, comfortable with their dwarfism, marrying normally and living full lives. A lesson for gays who choose to put their sexuality in second place to joining the mainstream.

The computer age and technological developments makes it easier to find like-minded horizontal brothers (deaf, dwarf and gay alike) and reduces the need for organizations promoting these horizontal identities, prompting critics to predict the continued demise of these liberation agendas. With cochlear implants, the numbers of deaf people has dropped significantly, undermining their horizontal identity. Only gaylib has entrenched itself as a pillar of the mainstream culture. The most able of disabilities.

It is possible, through hard work, to rewire the brain to open up to a fuller life. Just as you can learn a foreign language, or conquer the obsessive compulsive disorder, you can find room in your brain to achieve greater social abilities (i.e., to overcome your disability). Gaylib has sought to rewire the brain into a sex machine. But just to have the goal of scoring the most tricks possible is ultimately empty. What is vital is that your goal is a spiritual one. Even pansexuality can be sought for within a spiritual quest. Or celibacy.

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